I could bet the universe that at some point in your life you have
experienced this. You can’t deny, for there is ABSOLUTELY NO WAY that a normal
functional human being living this circus of life has escaped such feelings. Of
course may be not in a way as deep, or even shallow for some, as described but
we all have had our share of negativities. There must have been those
ineluctable moments when the hopes and dreams you held very tightly and
certainly most dearly to your heart crashed right in front of your eyes. And
the worst of all was to do nothing but look at those shattered pieces that lie
on the ground mocking you.
Let’s see, ever thought of how tormenting it is for a writer who had a
mind-blowing, career-changing idea in his imagination to sit down but not come
across one freaking palatable sentence; or to a musician when his guitar would
just refuse to strike the perfect note even after months of practice leaving
his composition incomplete for god-knows-how-long. Can you imagine the level of
ineptitude a successful soccer player has to live with carrying the burden of
being the reason for his team’s defeat in a crucial game; or the sorrow of a
50-year-old virgin having lived a long, unloved life?
Well, I can’t say much about these people but I, being an ex +2 student
of science, sure can, without A PENNY OF DOUBT, assure you that it is highly
agonising to give endless competitive exams and not attain desired results!!
*sigh*
Anyways so my point is that, naturally, we have all had our fair share
of loss, failure, desperation, desolation, hopelessness and unfulfilled
desires...
Dark times, they say.
Don’t they make you feel absolutely worthless? Those gloomy days which
seem no good, followed by those empty nights of loneliness and despair?
The agonising hours spent whining over the past and those unbearable moments of
frustration and low-self esteem? Did you ever have that unexplainable stubborn
void in your life which no matter what you do, refuses to get filled; the times
when the failure is just too much to handle or the violent feeling of
underachievement which grips your conscience to a point intolerable and doesn’t
let go? Don’t you frequently lose confidence in yourself?
If you can even slightly empathize with these feelings, welcome to the club of people with absolutely normal psychiatric health!
But that's inexcusable, right? Who is to unmask the culprit of the
emotional inconvenience we face?
Maybe we can pin point those child prodigies that our world has
witnessed over the years – pure geniuses who have contributed to various fields
and made a difference at an age when ordinary mortals like you and I were still
playing in the sandbox getting our clothes dirty. The list of such astonishing
kids is as long as the Nile – Beethoven who composed his first symphony at 5 despite being slightly deaf; Akrit Jaswal who performed his first surgery at
the age of 7; Gregory Smith who was nominated for a Nobel Prize at the age of 12. Hell, ourSachin
Tendulkar made his sensational Cricket debut at
the age of 16! I mean, it literally compels an average being to wonder what he
is even living for. So it’s probably them who make you to feel like a useless
nomad searching for an aim.
And of course, how can the high expectations from our families and the
society skip the accusations. (“.. Aur 5 bajke 16 minte pe abba ne kaha -
Mera Beta Engineer banega. Farhaan Qureshi, B.Tech engineer!”)
Even though all this might be true I’m still pretty convinced that,
especially for us girls, it is also a result of those ridiculously romantic
movies which convey the message that your lifetime is an absolute nuisance
without that one tall, handsome, perfect, glittering guy who’ll always sweep
you off your feet, solve each and every hurdle you face and be by your side
forever and EVER AND EVERRRRR *sarcastic-Awwww* (Yes Twilight, I’m talking to you).
Aargh, damn them all right? Why can’t they just let you live in peace?
But hey, don’t you think that somewhere voluntary over-activity of the
entity sitting comfortably inside your head, occupying all of the 1300cc of
your cranial capacity is responsible for your emotional tides? Aren’t you too
harsh on yourself; because you KEEP THINKING, thinking that you are not good
enough and will never be? Well then, let me have the honor to pour some light
over a well-known but not very well understood and accepted fact - all of the
hurt we experience in life is the result of our own mind.
This little rascal has the tendency to oscillate between our Fantasies
and the Truth creating turmoil of unwanted thoughts and emotions within us.
Nothing but merely the illusions created by our own self cause all the
sufferings.It is okay to feel dejected and trapped at times when our
expectations don’t hi-five realities. But that doesn’t justify sitting down
with these issues and analysing them over and over again. Just know that the
world has been through much worse than what you may face in your entire life
time. One unfavourable incident or decision never has and never will mean that
your life is over. Negativity doesn’t kill people, Wars and diseases do.
So whatever may be the reason, no one can help you cope with your misery
but yourself. If a person doesn't know how to keep himself happy, then nobody
else can. Neither Beethoven, nor Rancho and definitely not Edward Cullen! If
you are searching for that one person who is going to change your life, just
take a look in the mirror. For better or worse, is your choice.
Remember forever that you are as precious and unique as a beautiful
shining star in the night sky; never
think any less of yourself.
Everything may be done in one's strength and beyond to climb their very
own Stairway to Heaven, it is still difficult to escape those disappointing
vibes until we get what we want, after all how can a person be satisfied unless
he has reached his ultimate destination? Satisfaction limits our potential. It
is a devil for the ambitious, but contentment isn’t. The latter is about
finding happiness in what all we already have while constantly working towards
achieving more and more!
The key is to simply keeping watering the magic beans of your dreams
with your blood and sweat without paying heed to the outcomes, and in no time
will you be the Jack of your very own beanstalk.
I recently came across a lovely article which gave the mathematical
explanation of why our birth itself is a wonderful occurrence – Going way back
in history if we calculate the probability of the first couple of your family
meeting each other, getting married and having the exact ovum and sperm to
fertilise which would give rise to your subsequent ancestor – that too
GENERATION AFTER GENERATION ACCURATELY, right down to your parents – the odds
of you existing at all are merely 1 in 10 2,685,000 (which is basically zero!)
Mathematically speaking, it is a miracle that you are actually reading
this blog.
So the next time you dare feel low don’t ever hesitate to go out, treat
yourself with an ice-cream, celebrate and act like the miracle that you are,
after all it has been numerically proven. Come on now, give me that 1 in 10 2,685,000 smile! :D
